Comments on: Proximity Makes The Heart Grow Weaker http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/ Making next year's Human-Computer family reunion a lot less uncomfortable. Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:34:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Mike Rundle http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-27494 Mike Rundle Tue, 24 Apr 2007 08:57:05 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-27494 I'm terribly sorry buddy, I hope you're okay. I’m terribly sorry buddy, I hope you’re okay.

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]]> By: Jay Zipursky http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26999 Jay Zipursky Sat, 21 Apr 2007 02:19:54 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26999 I'm very sorry, Matt. My deepest condolences go out to you. I hope you find comfort amongst friends and family. I’m very sorry, Matt. My deepest condolences go out to you. I hope you find comfort amongst friends and family.

]]> By: Angelo http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26955 Angelo Fri, 20 Apr 2007 14:54:52 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26955 I went through some similar emotions when my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer. I didn't want to have my memory of him tainted by seeing him become weak. The odd thing is that it didn't make him seem weak; he actually seemed stronger than ever, but in a different way than before. I went through some similar emotions when my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer. I didn’t want to have my memory of him tainted by seeing him become weak.

The odd thing is that it didn’t make him seem weak; he actually seemed stronger than ever, but in a different way than before.

]]> By: Nancy http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26895 Nancy Fri, 20 Apr 2007 00:41:21 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26895 Matt, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My dad was killed in an accident when I was 12...My heart goes out to you and your family. Matt, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. My dad was killed in an accident when I was 12…My heart goes out to you and your family.

]]> By: Matthew Oliphant http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26676 Matthew Oliphant Mon, 16 Apr 2007 18:11:53 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26676 Thanks, Jay. Her name is Anne. Thanks again to everyone for their kind words via comment and email. Thanks, Jay. Her name is Anne.

Thanks again to everyone for their kind words via comment and email.

]]> By: Jay Zipursky http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26657 Jay Zipursky Mon, 16 Apr 2007 13:17:28 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26657 I'm also sorry to hear about your mom, Matt. You ARE doing a great thing by being with her right now. What's your mom's name? I'd like to make a donation in her honor. I will donate to the Pulmonary Fibrosis Foundation, unless you have another preference. Hang in there, Jay I’m also sorry to hear about your mom, Matt. You ARE doing a great thing by being with her right now.

What’s your mom’s name? I’d like to make a donation in her honor. I will donate to the Pulmonary Fibrosis Foundation, unless you have another preference.

Hang in there,
Jay

]]> By: Matthew Oliphant http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26355 Matthew Oliphant Sat, 14 Apr 2007 22:08:06 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26355 Thanks, Dave. I am just being here. Reading to her stuff from online and such. Talking. Trying not to be to... selfish? She has seen me, but I got no reaction that she recognized me. But I realized right away that it doesn't matter if I get a reaction. She knows, on some level, that I am here and that is enough. Thanks, Dave.

I am just being here. Reading to her stuff from online and such. Talking. Trying not to be to… selfish?

She has seen me, but I got no reaction that she recognized me. But I realized right away that it doesn’t matter if I get a reaction. She knows, on some level, that I am here and that is enough.

]]> By: Dave Seah http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26354 Dave Seah Sat, 14 Apr 2007 22:03:39 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26354 Oh man, Matt...this is one of the hardest things in the world to face. A small consolation is that everyone faces it, so you're not alone. My mom became terminally ill during final exams in grad school, and I didn't know how to deal with it. We flew back to see her, but she was already on a respirator but conscious. When she saw us, she could speak, but her eyes welled with tears. After that she lapsed into unconsciousness and we never spoke to her again. This was 15 years ago. In the time since then, my greatest regret was never expressing to Mom how much I loved her in the years since, and how many of my best qualities I can attribute back to her. So I try to continue to remember where I'm from, and how much of that is from her. I think it would have made her happy. I think when she saw my sis and I, looking so scared and shocked, that it was the last thing she wanted us to feel. If I could do it again, I would have sat by the bed and talked to her, telling her what was going on, what interesting things I was looking forward to, and letting her now that yes...we came out OK, and that we're going to do fine, and it'll be fun to catch her up next time we see her. I think she would have been happy to hear that, in her last days. Almost any mother is happy to hear that, any day of the week. It might be hard to do because you're feeling so sad now, confused, and feeling powerless. The way you can be strong now is to be there with Mom, and remember all the things you love about her, what she's taught you, and tell her that you're going to be fine because of her. You will have plenty of time later for yourself. Your friends are here for you too. Oh man, Matt…this is one of the hardest things in the world to face. A small consolation is that everyone faces it, so you’re not alone.

My mom became terminally ill during final exams in grad school, and I didn’t know how to deal with it. We flew back to see her, but she was already on a respirator but conscious. When she saw us, she could speak, but her eyes welled with tears. After that she lapsed into unconsciousness and we never spoke to her again. This was 15 years ago. In the time since then, my greatest regret was never expressing to Mom how much I loved her in the years since, and how many of my best qualities I can attribute back to her. So I try to continue to remember where I’m from, and how much of that is from her. I think it would have made her happy. I think when she saw my sis and I, looking so scared and shocked, that it was the last thing she wanted us to feel. If I could do it again, I would have sat by the bed and talked to her, telling her what was going on, what interesting things I was looking forward to, and letting her now that yes…we came out OK, and that we’re going to do fine, and it’ll be fun to catch her up next time we see her. I think she would have been happy to hear that, in her last days. Almost any mother is happy to hear that, any day of the week. It might be hard to do because you’re feeling so sad now, confused, and feeling powerless. The way you can be strong now is to be there with Mom, and remember all the things you love about her, what she’s taught you, and tell her that you’re going to be fine because of her.

You will have plenty of time later for yourself. Your friends are here for you too.

]]> By: Matthew Oliphant http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26261 Matthew Oliphant Fri, 13 Apr 2007 19:02:03 +0000 http://usabilityworks.org/2007/04/13/proximity-makes-the-heart-grow-weaker/#comment-26261 I am the same way, Keith. It's happening in front of my eyes and I have no effing clue what to do. I have to think though... just showing up is what I can and am supposed to do. That and take care of the newspaper recycling that's piled up around here. :) I am the same way, Keith. It’s happening in front of my eyes and I have no effing clue what to do. I have to think though… just showing up is what I can and am supposed to do.

That and take care of the newspaper recycling that’s piled up around here. :)

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